disclaimer: i want attention. i want sympathy. i want company. i want to impress people and i want people to like me. i don’t really understand why i’m supposed to pretend i don’t want those things, so i won’t.
“A woman who says “No thanks, I’ll sleep on the floor”; a woman who freezes up and tenses at your touch; a woman who says “I really don’t want to” and “We really shouldn’t” and “We can’t” and “Please at least wear a condom” is not saying yes to you, and if you would like to pretend that that is unclear, you are a liar, you are being disingenuous, you are lying and you know it.”—Mallory Ortberg, "What counts?" (via dolorimeter)
Don't confused 'oppression' with 'first world problems', it's a rookie error among feminists.
Wow, okay buddy, you’re BEGGING for a takedown here.
First world problems? Not a thing. People who say shit like “first world problems” are massive racist, imperialist, dismissive assholes.
If you’re ever tempted to say “first world problems,” do me a favor, and pull down a map. Tell me EXACTLY where the “third world” is. Make sure you correctly identify Switzerland as part of the third world, and Turkey as part of the First World. Don’t forget that Djibouti is a part of the first world.
Literally sit down and learn what “third world” means and why people from nonwestern nations think it’s a total bullshit term.
Second: you think people in the so-called third world don’t care about shit like makeup, and love, and technology? You think they don’t care about internet harassment? You think women over there don’t care about street harassment? You think they don’t care about fashion and clothes? You think they don’t care about music and video games?
Because THEY DO.
Right now, there is a woman in burundi teaching herself how to do a cut-crease eyeshadow look. Guaranteed.
"Third world" nations have fashion shows and fashion magazines. They care about street harassment. They care about the internet. They play video games. They know more about anime than your sorry ass every will. And the idea of "first world problems," which makes it sound like all women in "third world" nations are dealing with starvation, rape, war, acid attacks etc.
"I don’t like this expression "First World problems." It is false and it is condescending. Yes, Nigerians struggle with floods or infant mortality. But these same Nigerians also deal with mundane and seemingly luxurious hassles. Connectivity issues on your BlackBerry, cost of car repair, how to sync your iPad, what brand of noodles to buy: Third World problems. All the silly stuff of life doesn’t disappear just because you’re black and live in a poorer country. People in the richer nations need a more robust sense of the lives being lived in the darker nations. Here’s a First World problem: the inability to see that others are as fully complex and as keen on technology and pleasure as you are.
One event that illustrated the gap between the Africa of conjecture and the real Africa was the BlackBerry outage of a few weeks ago. Who would have thought Research In Motion’s technical issues would cause so much annoyance and inconvenience in a place like Lagos? But of course it did, because people don’t wake up with “poor African” pasted on their foreheads. They live as citizens of the modern world. None of this is to deny the existence of social stratification and elite structures here. There are lifestyles of the rich and famous, sure. But the interesting thing about modern technology is how socially mobile it is—quite literally. Everyone in Lagos has a phone.”
95% of the people who use bullshit expressions like “First world problems” have NO IDEA what life is like for people in the so-called third world. You just like sitting there derailing.
And for the record? As a white, western feminist, DAMN RIGHT I concentrate on issues in the United States. Because when white western feminists try to “save” women outside the west? We do a SHIT job of it. We’re the ones who bowl over actual congolese women, and what THEY want, and say that the #1 issue affecting them is rape. We become arms of the imperialist patriarchal complex.
Classic example: the guy who was ruling Egypt for the British got british feminists to help him in his anti-headscarf campaign in Egypt. Why did he hate headscarves? Because he wanted to *break the spirit* of Egyptians. Not because he gave a shit about women’s rights. How do I know that? Because he was the head of the anti-women’s-suffrage group in England.
When women who live outside the west do awesome things, I will signal-boost them, and I will do whatever they think I can do to help. But I follow their lead. Because these are THEIR issues, and THEY know what matters to them. Not me.
FINALLY: My problems are not trivial. My problems are not bullshit. My problems are not to be dismissed with your racist, imperialist logic. Dress codes and makeup and music and books and video games MATTER. They matter to me. They matter to my life.
So fuck you.
And fuck your assumptions.
And maybe consider that YOUR first world problem? Is that you can’t “see that others are as fully complex and as keen on technology and pleasure as you are.”
As C.M. Kosemen explains throughout All Yesterdays, we really can’t ever know how much fat and other soft tissues contributed to the overall shape of dinosaurs since that’s the first thing to rot and shrivel tight against their bones and like even a sperm whale has a little skinny skeleton.
However, despite overcoming incredible obstacles in order to travel from their remote village to the United States, Nabila and her family were roundly ignored. At the congressional hearing where they gave testimony, only five out of 430 representatives showed up.
The only people to be recognized for their suffering in this conflict are those who fall victim to the enemy. Malala for her struggles was to be made the face of the American war effort - against her own will if necessary - while innumerable little girls such as Nabila will continue to be terrorized and murdered as part of this war without end. There will be no celebrity appearances or awards ceremonies for Nabila. At her testimony almost no one even bothered to attend.
“LOOKS LIKE MEAT’S BACK ON THE MENU, BOYS" bellows the Orc to his Orc friends. Orcs know what menus are. Orcs know what restaurants are. are there bistros in Mordor? these are the questions i need answering
Things that, as a mentally ill person, I do not find offensive:
Using the words “crazy” or “nuts” or “insane” to describe something unexpected or incredible, such as “Mars has two moons?! That’s crazy!” or “Wow, those Westboro Baptists sure believe some crazy shit” or “that…
Ugh, why would you want Shadows to be in continuity? Luke builds his lightsaber in almost an after thought (when Jedi establishes it as a big freaking deal), Lando gets sidelined for Dash “I escaped from a 90s X-Men comic” Rendar, and chapter after chapter is devoted to Xizor’s plot to rape Princess Leia.
It’s an ugly, awful book that needs to be far away from what’s ultimately a children’s fantasy series.
“What most people don’t know, that they should, is that practically every food you buy in a store for consumption by humans is genetically modified food. There are no wild seedless watermelons, there’s no wild cows, there’s no long-stem roses growing in the wild …
We have systematically genetically modified all the foods, the vegetables and animals, that we have eaten ever since we cultivated them. It’s called artificial selection. That’s how we genetically modify them. So now that we can do it in a lab, all of a sudden, you’re going to complain?
I am sooooo excited for this Fangirling Friday!! Ami-Angelwings is one of my FAVOURITE tumblr people! I don’t even care if no one sees this. (Okay, I lied; I care a little bit.) Anyway. Ami is SO AWESOME I can’t help but fangirl!
i just realized it’s breast cancer awareness month so here’s a reminder:
don’t donate to susan g komen. they’ve spent TONS of money making sure their upper management can drive pink cars with customized license plates and tried to sue planned parenthood for using the pink ribbon, which they stole from an elderly woman who was trying to draw attention to the misuse of donated funds, which is exact shit that susan g komen is doing right now.
Less than 20% of all donations to the Susan G. Komen Foundation go to breast cancer research. The rest of that money goes to the salaries of their chief executives, and, oh yeah, suing other groups working to end breast cancer because it “infringes on their intellectual property” to do so. They also collaborate with some of the most exploitative and CANCER-CAUSING corporations out there (dig that pink cracking drill!).
Plus, we really don’t need to dump money into research. Want to end breast cancer deaths? Fund PREVENTATIVE MEDICINE. Fight for UNIVERSAL HEALTH CARE. End EXPLOITATIVE WORKING CONDITIONS. Eliminate BIGOTED HEALTH CARE PRACTICES. Most women who are lost to breast cancer could have been saved if they could just afford to go to the doctor regularly, or if their doctors had taken their symptoms seriously. How many doctors see “obesity” and ignore all other health conditions? How many women of color have wrongful mental health diagnoses that cause their doctors to dismiss them? How many working class and poor women are subjected to toxic environments by necessity?
Sparked by a recent incident involving hostility against a transgender student in Geneseo, the event was held to bring awareness to the campus community and Geneseo faculty members, as well as show support to those who identify as transgender.
Over 470 people attended, filling the room, according to Pride Alliance treasurer junior Kevin Callery. […]
The seminar concluded with a question and answer panel including three transgender woman students, a Geneseo professor and transgender female Geneseo alum ’07 Ceridwen Troy.
“I am a woman. I am female,” Troy said in response the question of her sex versus her gender. “Just because the law doesn’t always recognize that doesn’t mean it’s not true.”
Click the link for the full write up from SUNY Geneseo’s The Lamron.